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Love and Kids - the Best Therapy

It was this time last year that we were reeling from the death of my mom. She died of cancer after a very long battle. I feel very fortunate that I had time with her. Time to talk with her about life - to reflect on childhood, funny memories and all of that. We had closure, she and I.

Last night, we needed to admit my mother-in-law to an inpatient mental facility. She is struggling with what they believe to be Alzheimer’s Disease. Her progession has been quick - way too quick for many of us to grasp.

I’m proud of my husband for stepping up and taking care of her and being there for her. I struggle with how his siblings are handling it, although I imagine they don’t know what to do or how to react.

The best thing to see was the smile on her face when she saw her grandkids tonight. As hubby said, we saw Mom again…telling us not to worry about the kids horsing around…asking to hug Emily when she ran into the TV stand, etc. You can bring in every nurse and doctor known to man…I swear the best therapies are love and kids…hands down.

We’ll take one day at a time. Alzheimer’s is an unfair disease, robbing everyone, including the family of their most cherished things - memories. But even if she can find 5 minutes of joy, it’s worth the time we spend helping her be comfortable…helping her feel safe. She may not be my biological Mom, but she raised my husband and helped him get on the path to being the amazing father and husband and son he is today…and for that I owe her a lifetime of gratitude. She’s also treated me, from the moment I met her, like a daughter. I never felt like an outsider…always warmly embraced. I hope I can give back even a fraction of what she has done for me.


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5 Comments
God Bless You said:

Good luck!



forest hunter said:

Just tears my heat out about things I can't fix. I wish there was something I could do-Is there?
Gambatte is Japanese and basically means to do your best, as I know you are.
God Bless the time that you spent with your family and friends.



Terry said:

AD is one of the cruellest diseases.
It leaves the body till last, while it steals away the actual person you love, piece by piece.

You were lucky to have her as a mother-in-law - and she is just as lucky to have you as her daughter-in-law.

Lack of support from other members of the family is not uncommon in AD - I suspect many people prefer denial to facing up to such a dire disease.
Just do what you know needs to be done, and try not to let them get under your skin.



Raven said:

WHo the hell is this TROLL??? I want a piece of this fucktard.

Merri, I'm so sorry to hear about this. Like I told Eric let me know if there is ANYTHING I can do. These are hard times and it's a rough road.
I'm pretty good with helping you sort out issues you might come across with the nursing home too.
God Bless you and your family. You're all in my thoughts.



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Thank you all so very much for your support. I'm not alone in this, so if you can spare a moment, say a nice thing or two for her. And, if you're an imam, throw her a fatwa. After all,...